There are five stages of grief. denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. We are expected to play strong which makes most of us skip the first four stages to acceptance. Biggest Mistake!!!
No one ever tells you that grief feels so much like fear.
We invest so much time and energy trying to fix, change and deny our emotions. Grief can be a burden but also an anchor. You get used to the weight and how it holds you in place.
J R R Tolkien says, “I will not say do not weep for not all tears are evil”
There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues and hugs. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love. When grief is deepest, words are fewest.
You are allowed to cry as hard as you can, be as angry as you want, speak as long as you can. It’s only a season that may last a day, a week a month, a year or years; pain is personal, and when the season ends, you will be be lighter. If you hold back, the effects of late grief or unexpressed pain are quite extreme
The longer you hold on to pain or hurt, the harder it is to let go.
Let go of things you don’t understand, forgive as quickly as you can, talk about what has put you down. That helps relieve your pain.
Guard your heart for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. A bitter person will punctuate even the best of news with a BUT.
I am training my heart to love even the unlovable.
If there is nothing good I can say about you I will at least thank God for you are alive. You may not be a blessing to me but you could be a blessing to someone.
Life is too short to spend it letting someone live rent free in my life because if I am not careful they will become squatters later on permanent residents or even citizens.😊
Will You Keep Holding My Hand?
When I am inconsolable and caved in,
Will you help me through tomorrow?
When I am gravid with words unsaid and my silence is loud,
Will you still understand?
Will you keep holding my hand?
When I am delusional, senile, disoriented or emotional,
Will you make the best decision for me or will you choose the convenient one?
When you are mad, unappreciated and worn out,
Will you let the insolent fate take me away from you?
Will you keep holding my hand?
You have the ability to help someone else reach their destination. There people God has put in your life to lift them up. When you reach out to another you are sowing a seed for God to bless you. “Galatians 6; 2 says, Bear one another’s burdens.” Life can be heavy sometimes!!! We were not created to carry the burden on our own. When we pray for others we lighten the load.
Every time you pray, you not only tell someone you are in their corner cheering them on but also great things happen. Ask God to protect them, strengthen them, make their paths straight, bless and guard their dreams and plans. Your prayer may heal a child that is hurting, it may give someone who is tired another chance to life, it may be the reason someone afford a smile today.
When you pray things change, God is working behind the scenes. You don’t have to tell people that you are praying for them, just stand in the gap, be the warrior who covers them when they are down. None of us got where we are on our own; someone out there prayed for us, made positive remarks about us jokingly or in the heat of the moment, prophesied about you or held our hand.
We are blessed to be blessings.
I always rolled my eyes so hard whenever I heard silly lyrics like “Too much love will kill you” that at times I would worry that one fateful day they will get stuck in the sockets, until I actually fell in love.
You see, I am not into long-term relationships but for some reason I wasn’t about to let this one go. I gave it all the love, time and attention. Little did I know that this TLC would be the death of it; the leaves were droopy and the stem looked dry!
I shared my frustration with the co-owner who explained that the roots were rotting. Poor thing needed 1-2 ice cubes a week and here I was drowning it in half a glass of water every morning.
Now I know for sure, too much love can kill plants!
The timing of the Lord defies human reason. To those of you whose dreams have been denied thus far in life, hang on. To those whose past is unredeemable, keep standing strong. To those to whom the future looks blank and empty, do not roll over and die.
Whoever you are, whatever your situation, do not give up. Do not stop short of the Lord’s plan for your life. You may be stuck in a rut today but one touch of God in your life can bring unspeakable joy.
Naomi was a bitter woman, Ruth 1-4. In fact she said, “Do not call me Naomi (which means my joy) call me Mara (which means bitterness). I went out full but the Lord has brought me home again empty” Naomi started out a young wife, she had everything. But at the end of the day she had nothing.
She lost her husband and two sons but rediscovered her purpose and recycled her life and look what happened! She nursed her grandson Obed the father of Jesse and Jesse was the father of David.How could Naomi have known that Obed would be an ancestor of the Messiah? How would she have known that her legacy would outlive her by thousands of years? No doubt Naomi knew discouragement well, no doubt there were times she wanted to roll over and die. But if she had given into the temptation to give up, she would have stopped short of God’s restoration. She would have died bitter without having tasted joy.
It’s hard to believe the best is yet to come when you are between a rock and a hard place. But hang in there, the best is yet to come.
cc: Inspired by Woman Thou Art Loosed
Pain, You just cannot write it off.
You just hope the thing that caused it just goes away , and you heal.
There are no easy answer, you just breath in and out and wait for it to subside.
Pain, You just have to fight through
Because the truth is you cannot out-run it, and life always makes more