Everyone wants to be heard including you.

There is something satisfying, polite and respectful about engaging someone who is giving you undivided attention.


Think twice before victim blaming

There’a a phrase, “the elephant in the living room”, which purports to describe what it’s like to live with a drug addict, an alcoholic, an abuser.

People outside such relationships will sometimes ask, “How could you let such a business go on for so many years? Didn’t you see the elephant in the living room?” And it’s so hard for anyone living in a more normal situation to understand the answer that comes closest to the truth;

“I’m sorry, but it was there when I moved in. I didn’t know it was an elephant; I thought it was part of the furniture.”

There comes an aha-moment for some folks – the lucky ones – when they suddenly recognize the difference.”

Stephen King

I Hugged a Stranger and Made a Friend 🙃

I totally got pranked this morning!

I had to meet up with an old friend I hadn’t seen in a while for lunch today. As I get off the bus, this really friendly person runs up to me with spread arms and a broad smile while screaming my name.

The nature of work I do exposes me to so many people BUT I have a very big problem with remembering names and faces so I thought this is someone I may have crossed paths with at a conference or in a meeting somewhere.

This charming person gives me a long warm hug and in my mind I am trying hard to recall who she was only for my friend to walk up to us laughing her eyes wet and told me she had set her up.

It was so hilarious! Thanks Elian for giving me a reason to laugh so hard today.

Time Vs Healing

It has been said, “time heals all wounds.” I do not agree.

The wounds remain.

In time, the mind, protecting it’s sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it’s never gone.

-Rose Fitzgerald Kennedy-

Scars are not always badges of bravery.

While some tell the story of the warrior in us, others are a constant reminder of how badly bruised we were.

Time never heals the latter, we have to aid recovery;

Talk about it, write about it, see a therapist if you may, but if you leave the healing process to time, you will slowly water seeds of resentment, bitterness and anxiety.

Time doesn’t necessarily heal, it teaches us how to cope.